It seems so simple: just ask for what you want. But for many of us, it’s not simple. Instead of asking, we hint, we hesitate, we manipulate—anything but ask! Why is it so hard? Reasons are as numerous as individuals, but many people got discouraged as children, because too often the answer to a request was some form of “no.” We also sometimes imagine that the other person in a relationship (especially spousal) “should” already know what […] Continue Reading .:
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We assume we know how to attend. Don’t we watch TV, hear music? Yet to attend freely is a skill so rare, we often don’t know it exists. Usually our attention is more captured than given, as with TV. That’s qualitatively different from voluntary attending. Voluntary attention is given by choice. It is held on its object—or even on emptiness—without that object “holding” it in any way. We choose to focus and we continue it, […] Continue Reading .:
Here are some more thoughts about change: If we look around at folks, we see that attitudes toward change are quite varied. Some of us like it lot—only we don’t call it change, we call it adventure. Those among us who climb high mountains in challenging conditions, those who set out toward a dream when they have not a clue about how it could happen, those who find current circumstances to be choking and set out to […] Continue Reading .:
These days, the topic I hear the most about is: CHANGE. We are startled—or frightened—by it. It’s happening so fast. There are so many changes. And so on. The general feeling seems to be that change is something new, unfamiliar and somehow not right. But that’s simply a misperception. There are a lot of noticeable changes now, indeed, and they may be happening faster than they used to—it certainly seems so. Yet change has always been with […] Continue Reading .:
